Always better to have spoken

All melodrama aside.

When you say something out loud, it is an act of transmutation - thought into speech, feeling into communication. Sometimes the change is greater - sometimes when you say a thing, it makes it small and unfearful. It becomes something completely different than what you thought it was.

The act of will to speak - to just say it - that's the most important thing. You can be free, if you want to be.